Only click if you care about my thought process or rants. Seriously. I’m going to go on a big huge ramble here, and it will probably annoy a couple of people.
YOU DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND.
I repeat: You do.not. need a boyfriend.
Okay, trust me, I understand wanting to feel needed and loved. I totally get it! There is no one that could understand that more than me. I have messed up countless times because of this desire, but that’s why it’s so tricky. You shouldn’t be letting it consume your thoughts, yet we do! What good does it do us? NONE. NO GOOD.
I haven’t had a boy show genuine interest in me since freshman year, and even then when I started dated him it was awkward because it was a first relationship for both of us. We didn’t really know the gravity of the situation. I had to force him to take me to homecoming, and we were both just so weird. We’ve grown up a lot and such since then, but it was just silly to date then. Honestly, I think it’s even pretty silly to date now as a junior in high school. It’s just not necessary. There’s so much other stuff going on to deal with besides all the emotions and stress of a relationship. Let me tell you a little secret: worldly relationships are not all that they’re cracked up to be. Why? Because people are flawed. We make mistakes, we screw up, things just get bad. It’s part of human nature. Even when you marry the girl/boy of your dreams, it’s going to be this way. People disappoint. Teenagers can barely deal with friends being a disappointment, let alone someone they have let be an intimate part of their life.
BLAH. It’s just so superfluous. I’ve seen so many friends get hurt because boys don’t want to stay or find something wrong with the other. Everyone has flaws. Once we get out of high school and mature more, people start to realize it’s about accepting those flaws and becoming one. We may see that now, but it’s hard to accept it as such. LIFE IS TOUGH, OKAY? Especially for us teenagers. We know this, everyone knows it. Stop trying to make it tougher by demanding a relationship! When God wants you to be in a relationship, there will be someone that you least expect will be there for you. Seriously. That’s how it works. Focus on God, and He will put all things into place. That’s all it really boils down to. I know it’s difficult. Oh my word, believe me I know. There have been plenty of opportunities to just feel needed for me, but I have had to try to stray away from them because I know my worth. My worth is in Christ. He has someone individually picked out for me already, and I know He has someone for you, too.
So, please, please, please, stop stressing out about this silly little need for a boyfriend, and pursue the One. The unfailing, the unfaltering, the flawless, loving, relentless, unconditional God. I promise you will not be disappointed.